What does self-care mean?
As a single-mom with a limited budget, living in survival mode for years, I have finally come to realize that self-care means so much more than pampering and indulgence.
Botox, pedicures, massages, and bubble baths can be a part of it, but true self-care doesn’t have to cost money.
Why is self-care important?
Self-care is what you do to create the life of your dreams. It’s doing little things to make sure you are still filling up your cup so you can continue to give and serve all those around you.
Women tend to give, to sacrifice for our families and our responsibilities. We want the best for our kids and so we do everything we can for them…The problem is that when we give and give we end up depleted.
Self-care consists of the little things that keep us going and keep us sane for our family. It’s not only caring for our physical needs, but also your emotional, spiritual, financial, professional, intellectual and social health as well.
Self care ideas
These are a few ideas of ways that you can improve your life, but look at your own day to day routines and figure out what you really need to be happy and to create the life that you (and your kids) deserve.
Ultimately, self-care is a personal thing. Only you can decide what is right for you and many items in the list can overlap various categories.
Use available sick leave at work as needed
Take lunch breaks/go walking during breaks
Take your dog for a walk/hike
Go to regular doctor/dentist appointments
Prep meals weekly or monthly
Find a job/career/hobby that gives you purpose
Attend extra training or professional development
Learn something new that you’ve always been interested in
Show up on time daily and leave on time each day
Give your best work with each project your work on
Ask for help
Find time to relax daily
Don’t check work email/messages when you’re not at work
Turn off the TV to get other things done
Find ways to stay balanced and grounded
Be kind to yourself In the midst of all the turmoil you are going through
Being patient, understanding, and positive with yourself.
Give yourself the grace of making mistakes
Be patient in reaching goals
Be forgiving of yourself for whatever you’re dealing with
Create a routine.
Create an environment that is functional
Prepare for the next day (put out clothes, shoes, bags, etc)
Complete one task on your to do list each day
Go to church
Take a day off work while your kids are at school so that you can get things done or spend some time alone
Expand your network of friends and social groups
Prioritize relationships with family/friends
Attend special events
Check up on friends/family often
Say no when you’re over-committed
Ask for what you need
Accept help when offered
Learn to serve others
Be kind/patient/understanding with others
Write a budget and stick to it
Get out of debt (and stay out of debt)
Organize your bills and pay them on time
Find time to call on financial matters
If you’re not self-sufficient already, work towards it until you are
Don’t spend money as a way to cope with difficult emotions
How do you know what you really need?
To truly do the things you need, look at your life and figure out what small things would make the biggest difference for you and tackle anything that is holding you back from your best life.
What do you need to do to have the life you deserve? How can you give your children the mom that they deserve? Figure out what they need and what you have always wanted to give them and set realistic goals that will get you there.
What is your self care budget?
If you truly have the money to get pedicures, etc. do it! If your self-care budget is ZERO, don’t worry. There is still so much you can do. Find time to do your own nails, or focus on something that doesn’t cost money. Most things on this list fit into that category.
Commit to you- You’re worth it. Don’t sabotage yourself before you even begin.
When you’re finding time daily for self-care, your life will improve. You’ll start to be more organized, get things done, and feel better in general. It will take time to see a complete shift, but it will be so worth it as your life starts improving.
It gives you peace of mind. You can feel it- and people around you feel it. Make yourself a habit.
Staying disciplined will allow you to keep up with self-care and become a healthy parent in order to take care of your family and be a better person. You’ll also be more empowered and in a better place to help others.
Discipline yourself in order to stay motivated and keep up with self-care. Self-care is something that we do regularly in order to create a habit.
What new habits are you going to start today?
I challenge you to find a few things that you would like to work on in each self-care category and try them out throughout the year. Focus on adding one into your routine at a time. Once you add one more thing that you’re going to work on, keep at it until you make it a habit.
Share your experience with your self-care ideas in the comments below. I can’t wait to hear from you!
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